Charles Griswold argues that
forgiveness is a kind of transaction and as a result there are certain
conditions attached to the transaction which mean that one cannot truly forgive
without fulfilling these conditions (1). In response it might be pointed out that
conditional love is inferior to unconditional love. It might then be argued by
analogy that conditional forgiveness, transactional forgiveness, is inferior to
unconditional forgiveness. In this posting I will argue this doesn’t hold and
that transactional forgiveness is morally more desirable than unconditional
forgiveness because of the message it sends to the offender.
Martha Nussbaum rejects the idea
of transactional forgiveness as suggested by Griswold and goes further by
arguing that there are also problems with unconditional forgiveness. The
problem with all sorts of forgiveness according to Nussbaum is that it is
essentially backward looking and attached ideas of payback. She argues rather
than forgiving we should engage with offenders in a spirit of active love (2).
In response to such arguments Griswold suggests that for a victim just to give
unconditional forgiveness means she lacks self-respect and that others will
also fail to respect her. Intuitively if someone who has been wronged and the
offender exhibits no remorse or indeed continues offending, holds no resentment,
then the victim lacks self-respect. Intuitively it also seems morally wrong,
not just hard, for someone who has been sexually assaulted to unconditionally
forgive her assailant.
In this posting I don’t want to examine
a lack of respect. Instead I want examine two different objections to
unconditional forgiveness. First, I will argue that in some circumstances
unconditional forgiveness means the victim far from having too little
self-respect, means she actually has too much and is over proud. Secondly I
will argue unconditional forgiveness by the victim harms the offender. Let it
be accepted that all forgiveness whether unconditional or transactional means
letting go of resentment. Intuitively this appears to be true for it seems
impossible to believe a victim truly forgives her transgressor if she still
bears resentment towards him. For the sake of argument let us assume Sue has
been morally harmed by John and that she has unconditionally forgiven him. In
this context because Sue’s forgiveness is unconditional it is possible that
John might remain quite happy with the fact that he has morally harmed Sue and
would be fully prepared to do so again.
Let us examine Sue’s motives in
unconditionally forgiving John. According to Nussbaum sometimes,
“the person who purports to
forgive unconditionally may assume the moral high ground in a superior and
condescending way.” (3)
If we accept Nussbaum view, then
it is possible that Sue’s underlying motive in unconditionally forgiving John
is to feel good in a superior way. Sue’s motive displays a certain moral
arrogance. Such a motive does not justify unconditional forgiveness. However,
let us assume that Sue’s motive is not to feel superior but simply a desire to
act in a moral manner.
Let us examine the above
assumption. I now want to present two arguments why even in this context Sue’s
unconditional forgiveness might be flawed. Both arguments will be based on
Sue’s focus. Firstly, I will argue that by unconditionally forgiving John to
satisfy her desire to act in moral manner Sue might still be exhibiting an
excessive moral pride. Before proceeding I must make it clear I am not
attacking limited moral pride, moreover I believe that some limited moral pride
is a good thing. How then can Sue exhibit excessive moral pride by unconditionally
forgiving John? It seems possible to me that Sue’s motives for forgiving John
might have nothing actually to do with John. Let us assume Sue’s unconditional
forgiveness is due to her focus on acting morally and isn’t a case of moral
grandstanding. Her focus might be flawed if it focusses exclusively on Sue’s
behaviour because her focus is too narrow. If Sue focusses exclusively on her
own behaviour, focusses on herself, then she seems to be exhibiting excessive
pride. Nussbaum for instance might argue such a limited focus is unhealthy
because it contains a narcissistic element. It follows that if underlying Sue’s
unconditional forgiveness is an excessive pride that her motive for this
forgiveness is flawed, indeed it might be argued that by excessive cherishing
of herself she damages herself. However, it does not automatically follow that
her unconditional forgiveness of John cannot be justified by other reasons just
because Sue’s motivation is flawed.
Let us assume Sue’s motive for
her unconditional forgiveness is simply focussed on acting morally and has
nothing to do with excessive pride. This brings us to the second of my two
arguments. I want to argue that whilst Sue’s simple desire to act morally is
admirable the way she enacts this desire is flawed. I will base my argument
once again on Sue’s narrow focus. In order to act in a true moral way people
must consider all moral agents and not just a select few, a particular morality
is a partial morality. Any non-partial system of morality must include those
who harm us. I would suggest that Sue’s narrow focus on unconditionally
forgiving John means she fails to genuinely consider his moral needs. Sue is
only considering herself morally and disregarding the moral needs of John. By
withdrawing her resentment Sue is withdrawing something that might help John
become a better person. Resentment at wrongdoing is not simply something the
victim feels; resentment also sends a signal to the offender that he is causing
moral harm. It seems to me that by unconditionally forgiving John Sue is
denying John this signal which might help him become a better person. Agnes
Callard makes a similar argument with respect to revenge when she argues that “revenge is how we hold one another morally
responsible” (4). It follows Sue’s
unconditional forgiveness of John whilst admirable in some ways is nonetheless flawed
because she ignores John’s moral needs or is mistaken about what will help John
become a better person.
I have argued that conditional
is superior to unconditional forgiveness however it might be argued by some
that my conclusion is unsound. They might point out that unconditional
forgiveness seems to set an excellent example of how to love others and this
reason for supporting unconditional forgiveness outweighs the reasons against I
have advanced above. In response I would argue the recognition of others as
moral agents is even of even more fundamental importance to morality than any
possible demonstration of love. Without this basic recognition no system of
morality can even get started. In my example it seems to me if Sue
unconditionally forgives John then she is acting in a way she believes is best
for John and by so doing she is failing to recognise him as a fully moral
agent.
Does accepting that unconditional
forgiveness might be harmful mean we must accept the type of transactional
forgiveness favoured by Griswold? Nussbaum sets
out the long list conditions necessary for Griswold’s conditions for transactional
forgiveness to take place (5). She argues that going through such a process is a
humiliating one smacking of payback, I am inclined to agree. Griswold’s
transactional forgiveness makes sense if we accept a traditional view of anger
which includes payback. However, Nussbaum argues ideas of anger involving
payback doesn’t make sense. Once we see traditional anger doesn’t make
sense we can transmute it into action according to Nussbaum. Traditional anger,
“quickly puts itself out of business, in that even the
residual focus on punishing the offender is soon seen as part of a set of
projects for improving both offenders and society.” (6)
I am again inclined to agree with Nussbaum that anger
should be transmuted into something useful. I am inclined to agree because I
believe like Michael Brady that emotions, including anger, act in a way
analogous to alarms focussing our attention on the need to do something (7).
Alarms are meant to be attended to, an unattended car alarm is annoying,
unattended anger can be damaging. However,
even if unattended anger is harmful this doesn’t mean anger is harmful.
Unattended alarms are annoying but alarms are useful. Unattended anger may be
harmful but anger is useful, anger draws attention on the need to do something.
According to Nussbaum anger should “focuses on future welfare
from the start. Saying ‘Something should be done about this”. (8) If we accept that anger should be attended to, be
transmuted, then it seems to me Griswold’s transactional idea of forgiveness is
in trouble because the transactions involve payback which seem to me to be
related to un-transmuted anger.
If we forgive someone and we do
not adopt Griswold’s ideas on transactional forgiveness are we forced somewhat
reluctantly to conclude that our forgiveness should be unconditional? I don’t
believe it does. What does it mean to forgive? If we define forgiveness as
simply as relinquishing anger and its associated desire for revenge, then a
commitment to transitional anger also means commitment to unconditional
forgiveness. It means even if John remains quite happy with the fact that he
has morally harmed Sue and remains prepared to do so again that if Sue
translates her anger that she forgives him unconditionally. However, forgiving
someone might mean also be defined as the normalisation of relations
between the forgiver and the forgiven. Translating anger in this context
doesn’t simply mean moving on. Transitional anger means looking to the future,
moving on. Transitional anger also means looking back to the past, past
wrongdoing cannot be ignored after all it is the reason why we must look to the
future. This approach doesn’t of necessity involve a formal transactional
process involving payback. It does however mean that certain minimum conditions
not involving payback must be met. Relations cannot be normalised if a
wrongdoer disputes the facts or wrongness of his action. In this situation
victims are entitled to protect themselves by withholding trust. Trust is an
essential part of normal human relations if someone is always wary of another
their relationship cannot said to be a normal one. Protecting oneself doesn’t
need involving payback. It follows forgiveness requires that the wrongdoer must
accept responsibility for the act and acknowledge its wrongness for normal
relations to be met. It further follows if someone accepts transitional anger
that his acceptance does not commit her to unconditional forgiveness which
might harm the wrongdoing.
1. Charles Griswold,
2007, Forgiveness, Cambridge University Press.
2.
Martha Nussbaum,
2016, Anger and Forgiveness, Oxford
University Press, Chapter 3.
3.
Nussbaum, chapter 3.
4.
Agnes Callard,
2020, On Anger, Boston Review Forum,
page 15
5.
List of Griswold’s
conditions as outlined by Nussbaum.
·
Acknowledge she was
the responsible agent.
·
Repudiate her deed
(by acknowledging it. Express regret to the injured at having caused this
particular injury to her
·
Commit to becoming a better short of person
who does not commit injury and show this commitment through deeds as well as
words.
·
Show how she
understands from the injured person’s perspective the damage done by the
injury. Offer a narrative of accounting for how she came to do the wrong, how
the wrongdoing does not express the totality of the person and how she became
worthy of approbation.
·
Acknowledge she was
the responsible agent. Repudiate her deed (by acknowledging its wrongness) and
herself as the cause.
·
Express regret to
the injured at having caused this particular injury to her.
·
Commit to becoming a
better short of person who does not commit injury and show this commitment
through deeds as well as words.
·
Show how she
understands from the injured person’s perspective the damage done by the
injury. Offer a narrative of accounting for how she came to do the wrong, how
the wrongdoing does not express the totality of the person and how she became
worthy of approbation.
6.
MARTHA C.
NUSSBAUM, 2015, Transitional Anger. Journal of the American Philosophical
Association, page 51.
7.
Michael S. Brady,
2013, Emotional Insight; The Epistemic Role of Emotional Experience, Oxford University Press
8.
MARTHA C. NUSSBAUM,
2015, Transitional Anger. Journal of the American Philosophical Association,
page 54.
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